I have been contemplating for a long time quitting my job and being a full-time stay at home mommy. I feel like it would be easier for me not to have the stress of the part-time job I have. Stay-at-home-mommas – I am NOT saying that staying at home is easier than working. I’m saying that it would make MY life simpler.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my job – most parts of it. I love coaching the girls, I love helping them improve, and I love it when they leave the program in a positive way. I love taking them to competitions, and I absolutely adore my assistant coach (I would have left already if she wasn’t in this with me).
But……. I hate the stress. And the drama. And I keep thinking, this complaining isn’t worth me taking so much time away from my child and husband.
I would have so much more time to do things for me, more crafts, more sewing, maybe take a dance class for myself.
I feel lucky that we don’t need the money (because it’s basically like a volunteer position). I do worry that I may get bored (ha, with a one-year-old?!) or regret my decision or miss it a lot.
I’m so conflicted between liking the majority of my job and being sick of the nonsense. I keep bouncing back and forth about staying or going.
What are your thoughts working and stay at home mommas? I know the grass is always greener, but I do value your opinions. What do you think?
Tabitha
I love being a stay at home mom! I feel like I would miss so many little things my little boy does if I was at work all day. On Monday, I went to a meeting at church and was only gone an hour and half, and I missed my little boy taking 5 steps, the most he has ever taken. I still work a little, about half a day every other week. This gets me out of the house a little. But if I didn't work at all, I wouldn't miss it. I love having my focus on my family. Maybe you could figure out a way you could just be involved a little, and spend most of your time at home. I know it is a big decision!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your opinion Catie. I really appreciate it! I agree that I miss my little guy everytime I am gone and not able to put him to bed. It's such a hard decision!
DeleteI am a SAHM and loving every moment. Dont get me wrong. It was a hard decision for me and my family to make. It wasn't the income that made it hard, it was the "i'm stuck in my house", and I have a masters degree, issues I had to deal with. Then I thought about it for a while. The hardest job you do is being a MOM and that challenge I wanted to take. I have now stayed at home for almost a year and 1/2 and I love every moment of it. I blog, I go to the library, I read a ton now, I craft, bake and mingle with lots of other women and friends. What more could I ask for. If you can do it, I say go for it. You wont regret it later in life when you can say You raised the best kid/s.
ReplyDeleteYou are SO right that the hardest job is being a mom - and the most rewarding job. I know how you feel about the degree - I have struggled with that a bit too. Like I was wasting it or something.
DeleteI do want more time to do mommy things on my own and with my son. Thanks for your advice!!
I am kind of a stay at home mom, but I do work ten hours a week as a nanny and I bring my daughter with me.
ReplyDeleteI am not bored! In contrast, I still feel like there isn't enough time to do all the things I want to do with my little one. Time flies! Which is why we should be very careful about how we spend it, especially in these precious baby toddler years. You don't want to look back with regret!
I don't want to regret anything with my kids! It's nice that you can bring your daughter with you to work. I can do the same if I wish, but he is at the stage of destruction and crazy so it doesn't really work!
DeleteThere isn't ever enough time, is there?!
I have always been a stay at home mum. Although it is not for everybody, I find it enjoyable and have LOVED seeing each of my children grow daily and be the one to teach them everything. I find that I do still need interaction though, by coffee dates, volunteering at the kids school etc. Don't close yourself off from everything but certainly give being a SAHM a try, you never know - you may like it too :)
ReplyDeleteKerry, Thanks for the advice. I feel the need to interact with other adults too. Coffee dates are great! I'm glad that it has been the right choice for you to stay home - I also love being able to watch my little guy grow too - it's incredible!
DeleteSo, this is kind of hard for me to answer because I am a stay at home mom right now but I am considering going back to work part time. I am kind of in the opposite position as you. I LOVE being at home and wouldn't trade it for anything but... sometimes I think it would be nice to get out a few nights or one day a week and have some adult interaction and something that is just for me. Also, the money would come in really handy right now. :)
ReplyDeleteAshley, you should try it if that's what you want! I will say that I enjoy having responsibility outside of the house and I like feeling like I contribute myself to something extra.
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